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Friday, March 8, 2013

In Marriage There Is No Love Without Respect


I just read the article in yesterday’s Daily Mail (UK) by British reality TV contestant, Katie Hopkins about her husband.  I laughed out loud when she wrote that everything I said in my recent Daily Mail feature about my formula for a long-lasting marriage was tosh!  First of all she doesn't know me and has never met me.   My friends will tell you that I am opinionated, outspoken and very independent.  I tell everyone what I think whether they like it or not, and that includes my husband Bob.   What I was explaining in the piece I wrote for the Daily Mail last Saturday was that I think that respect and good manners are terribly important in the most intimate relationship of all – a marriage.


If you are going to be nasty to each other, why stay married?  Katie Hopkins says she adores her husband.  So do I – adore Bob – and he deserves it.  He loves me, spoils me, protects me, defends me and manages my career.  And yes, he too can be difficult, argumentative, and somewhat bossy.  That’s why I call his Bismarck!  Nobody is perfect but I believe that being nice to people you love is tremendously important whether that is your husband, a relative or a friend.  I’m not sure what’s wrong with that although Katie Hopkins seems to think there is.  The world we live in today is worse than it has even been and dangerous.  It is also full of a lot of unkind, destructive, and anti-social people who make life miserable for everyone, especially their families.    It’s bad enough our there without creating unnecessary conflict in the home.  For the record, I don’t bite my tongue, I don’t creep around Bob, and I don’t keep the peace if I think it is necessary to say what I think.  And bringing ‘generation’ into it is a load of tosh! It’s nothing to do with how old you are, it’s to do with character.Barbara Taylor Bradford OBE


 Happily ever after: Barbara writes romantic novels, and her life with husband Bob perhaps mirrors some of these


Here is the article link in the Daily Mail by Katie Hopkins:

I love my husband - but respect him? Don't make me laugh!

Novelist Barbara Taylor Bradford said the key to marriage was admiring your husband. What tosh, says KATIE HOPKINShttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2289255/Katie-Hopkins-admits--I-love-husband--respect-Dont-make-laugh.html


And here is the link to my original article in the Daily Mail that Ms. Hopkins has referenced:
Novelist Barbara Taylor Bradford's secret for lasting love? Always let your husband win the rows!
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2286751/Novelist-Barbara-Taylor-Bradfords-secret-lasting-love-Always-let-husband-win-rows.html#ixzz2MyWXFb5K 

Double act: Barbara Taylor Bradford and husband Bob pictured in 1979: their love has continued to grow into old age
Have a look at both features and let me know which recipe to marital success you would choose.

4 comments:

  1. Dear Mrs. Taylor,

    Thank you for sharing your wisdom on having a happy marriage. I fully support your view, although I am young. I was born in Central Asia and perhaps the respect for men in general and the importance of sincere respect to one's husband is in my geans. Yes, when needed I can be tough and tell what I think, but I do try to catch myself doing so over non-important issues - and in the end of the day, oh, so many of them are of little importance! And then I am very happy I held my temper and put relationship, respect, and peace as my number one priority!

    May God bless your husband and you with many more years of activity, strong health, happiness and joy!

    Using this wonderful opportunity, may I send you the sincerest best wishes and love from my mother, who adores your books - they helped her through many a difficult times! Do know that you have a lot of fans in my part of the world: Uzbekistan's capital, Tashkent (that's in Central Asia, former Soviet Union).

    Thank you for your wonderful talent!!!!!!

    Sincerely,
    Victoria Evangelina

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  2. You have always been my favorite author and the one I mention to friends. My husband and I have been married for 40 years, I can't imagine wanting to live with someone that long if I didn't truly respect and admire him. Married lives should be shared and you should be each others top priority in life...how can that happen without respect. I agree with you completely but if Katie can be happy living with someone she doesn't even respect... good luck to her.

    Thank you so much for your wonderful books, I just finished reading "Letter from a Stranger" and loved it so much.
    Cheers, Jean

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